I am going to toss this out there because maybe others have seen the problem and solved it.
With the advent of tablets, families with children have a problem that needs to be addressed. Let me paint the picture.
Adults need to be able to communicate and know that the communication is between the intended parties.
Email and Facebook on all PCs, iMessage and FaceTime on Apple mobile devices are accessible by anyone who is logged onto the device.
Now with PCs, you can set up multiple users and when the user logs on, then all settings are for that person. That can be as secure as you want to make it, but it requires discipline.
Now with mobile devices it is different. Apple does not provide for multiple users and it isn’t a simple problem. I don’t think Android does either.
Obviously a mobil phone is setup for one user with the phone company and must be that way. Therefore all contacts, email addresses, etc. is for the owner of the device. The way to control this is with the security screen and not telling the child the code.
If only one person uses a mobile device, then there is no problem. However, with iPads and other tablets that usually isn’t the case when there are children in the family.
The iPads used by my grandchildren were set up with their parent’s Apple ID. The iMessage and FaceTime belong to that adult. When I see an iMessage or FaceTime request come in to chat, it may be the adult or the child.
Since the device has to be associated to the Apple id, at minimum, it sets up the Apple email address. However, many users also have their Hotmail, gmail, yahoo or other emails also set up on their mobile device.
Lets face it, children should not have access to their parent’s email account or Facebook accounts. I don’t want to send a message about a birthday present I am considering for my grandchild, and have it read by that grandchild and not their parent.
It has happened to me. I have carried on conversations, thinking I was talking to my son/daughter, only to realize it was not them and was their offspring.
I do not think these problems are unique to Apple.
Now Apple could adopt multiple users for iPods and iPads. iPhones is not as easy because of the phone company being involved. Until that is done, I have about decided that the iPad or iPod should be setup with the Apple user id being that of my grandchildren, if the device is theirs. Then iMessages and and FaceTime and emails will be recognized as being from them.
Facebook is a bigger problem for today’s parents of young ones. If the children have access to Facebook, until a certain age, I think it should have been setup by the adult and monitored by that adult. If a child is on Facebook and the parent is not monitoring that account, then it is a problem waiting to happen.
Luckily, I no longer have underage children. I do have four grandchildren 14 and under, and know that they should be monitored. Parents should know every friend on the Facebook account of their children. Obviously, the parent should be on the friend list as well.
I am currently working through the options that I think will work. Many others that read this blog have moved to Panama and have grandchildren on other parts of the world that they communicate with. As I said, if you have a good solution, I would like to hear it.