When I visited the stroke victim on Monday, he was really down. He said we needed to talk. I said, “what about?”
He said he wanted to check out of here. I said, you want to leave this apartment and go to an assisted living facility?
He said, “no, I want to check out.”
After a few more exchanges, I realized he was telling me he wanted to die. I said, “and what is your plan for that?”
He said, give me a pill.
I said, “Sorry, there is no assisted suicide in Panama and I won’t participate in that.”
It was about that time he moved his right arm to his chest. It was the first time I had seen him move the right side of his body.
I pointed out to him that he was making progress and said I wasn’t giving up on him and didn’t want him giving up on himself.
I then thought about him being in one room for a solid month. No TV. No music. No connection with the outside world.
His TV was in another room and he couldn’t get there. I asked what he thought about me getting another TV set up in his room. He decided it would be a good idea.
Yesterday, I went by MultiMax and bought a Selectron 32 inch LED TV and voltage protector. Only $200 for the TV and a fantastic picture. I went to Novey and bought 50 feet of RG6 TV cable. I had a cable splitter and another short RG6 cable section from previous projects.
Lilliam and I went to his apartment around 10 AM yesterday and I reran his cable from the old location to his bedroom and moved the cable box to his bedroom.
Then I split the output from the cable box and ran the purchased cable back to the other TV. Now both TVs are powered by the cable box. If he is sleeping the caretaker can watch TV in the other room and not bother him.
I am hoping this improves his day. He has US news, not that would brighten anyone’s day, movies, music and he can control what is on. I think he was impressed with the quality of the TV picture. He seemed pleased. He had me put on some jazz music and I learned that he used to play the trumpet.
Thank goodness for hanging ceilings. It only took me about 2 hours. Would have been 30 minutes for someone younger, but Lilliam, the caretaker and I got it done.
I need to give thanks to Juli Alexander. She has experience dealing with the problems my stroke victim is going through. Juli and her husband came by so that she could visit with him. She is a special person.
As large a problem as any in these sort of cases is the feeling of helplessness, feeling like you are alone and you have no control and no one cares. I think Juli’s visit was beneficial and I want to recognize her for offering her support.
Juli had several ideas of other things that will help. I have placed them on my list of “todos”.
This morning the caretaker had a 7am eye appointment. I am writing this, and filling in for her, while she is at her doctor’s appointment. I will get it posted when I return home.
It was hard motivating my body to get out of bed at 5:45 AM. However, the sun is coming up. The air is fresh. I hear chickens clucking across the street and it looks like it is going to be a beautiful day.
I hope wherever you are, at this moment, you realize how lucky you are. If your health is good, don’t take it for granted. If you have children and family that care for you, don’t take them for granted. If you have friends that care for you, don’t take them for granted.
And don’t forget to tell those you love how much they mean to you.