Thanks to all who have monitored this post and especially to the person that contacted me offering assistance.

It will most likely take a little more time, but it appears, one way or another, there will be closure.

If you still want to do something constructive, I would ask that you say a prayer for all involved.

I have found a private, trustful way to contact both through a common friend. G Sr., I am a Spanish speaker and about the same age of G´s mom. Since CC is a public Internet site, I´d suggest those interested in helping Giancarlo to contact Don Ray via a private e-mail.

Cheers!

And thank you Don Ray for maintaining a forum that allows for dialogue, such as in this situation, possible and accessible, and for being so gracious and responsive on your blog.
Salut!
Charlotte

For Charlotte, when I reading its comment, I have remained really impressed by her internal and moral strenght, I warm desire to thank her for the beautiful words and of all those people that have affectionately been me near in these days. However the thinks will go I have understood that exist to the world honest and sincere peoples.
I am also planning at my age (62) to grant as soon as possible a vacation to David.

Don Ray once again a big thanks,
Giancarlo.

What finally got results was extensive searches and research on the Internet, of adoption/reuniting related sites. I had gathered as much information as I was able about what I knew of my past, (my adopted father being very much against my inquiries, but letting slip bits of information that he’d held to himself when he got agitated. A trick I managed to exploit. Loved my father deeply, however this was a strong point of contention between us).

I posted all of my accumulated information, i.e. place of birth, any medical info., incl. hospital, etc., on numerous adoption/birth/ reuniting, etc. sites. And I finally, got a “hit” from a woman who was born in the same state and county as I had been born.

She then gave me the name and phone # of an investigator in that area who had reunited her with her birth family. The investigator tracked down my remaining family (3 brothers and 4 sisters - I’m the youngest of 9 children). He contacted them and asked permission for me to contact them.

They had been wondering about me for years, and thought that I’d died at birth. They’d all found each other (2 sisters also adopted) about 30 yrs ago. They were very happy to know about me, that I was well, and had had opportunities in life that remaining with our birth family would not have made possible. Our mother and father were, as we say, “dirt poor”.

The investigator had a good policy. The searcher would only pay him his fee if he or she got results. It was not a large fee. This was a work of passion for him.

During my search, I came across several international adoption search sites for people who had been born in one country, adopted, and raised in other countries. These sites related to both birth parents searching, as well as adoptee’s searching.

Even though Giancarlo’s child, from what he has said, most likely was not adopted, I’m sure there are many permutations of this general searching for one’s missing family member scenario.

I would suggest that Giancarlo may be helped by posting as much information as he has available on as many appropriate sites as he can find, as well as continuing to reseach local Panama records, etc. I think some Internet sites charge a fee, however I only used free sites for my search. His child, or child’s mother, or another family member on the child’s mother’s side, may be searching for him as well.

One important factor is that the one being searched for wants to reunite, as well as the one searching. And the outcomes are not always happy ones. So one must have a great deal of patience, and not have any tightly constructed set of expectations.

My situation has turned out well in general. Because I was an adoptee, it is very good to have my own biological family medical history. And I maintain ongoing contact with one of my brothers, and two of my sisters. There’s lots of stories in my biological family’s past. Quite interesting, some of it quite sad and tragic. But I personally am not at all sorry that I made the search. And they seem glad to know I’m out here, as well.

I hope relating some of my experience and search avenues helps. And I hope that this search of Giancarlo’s is a sincere one. I wish him the very best, and patience, patience, patience.

If I think of anything else useful will post it.
Charlotte